Understanding Your Child
Understanding Your Child’s Personality
When it comes to understanding your child, one of the first places to start is by understanding their personality. While a child’s likes and dislikes may change over time, their personalities will not. For instance, be mindful of their individual traits and characteristics. Are they introverted or are they extroverted? Do they adapt easily to change or do they need time to adjust to new settings? How do they deal with stressful situations? Do they handle stress with ease or do they respond with emotional outbursts? These are all important considerations to keep in mind that will help you understand where your child is coming from when they say or do certain things.
Once you know their personality, you can consider the best way to discipline your child given their personality traits. Your child’s innate personality is very complex. In your interactions with your child, keep their personality at the forefront of your mind. Nurture your child’s well-being by being showing support, appreciation, and understanding of their unique traits and characteristics and then relate with them accordingly.
Understanding Your Child’s Underlying Needs
Keep in mind that a child’s temperament can be directly impacted by their surroundings. Family dynamics, relationships, and even environment can all influence a child’s personality — which is why a happy, healthy, and loving home environment is a top priority. It is important that parents are aware of such factors because a child’s experiences are typically a driving force behind their actions.
Parents can successfully see the world through their child’s eyes by not only taking the child’s immediate responses into account but also by also putting their child’s experiences into context. It’s easy to see a child’s misbehavior and focus on stopping it. But more effective than focusing on the behavior itself is focusing on the underlying needs behind the behavior. For example, take a toddler who is aggressive with a new sibling. It’s easy to see only the behavior and lecture or punish the child accordingly. However, thoughtful parents may ask themselves, “What is my child communicating with this behavior? Does my child need more one-on-one time with me? Do I need to offer more frequent snacks or an earlier bedtime?”
Connecting with Your Child
Another great way to get to know your child is by connecting with them on a one-on-one basis. Parents can do this by having meaningful conversations with their children. When talking with your child, show interest and curiosity about what they have to say. Actively encourage them to communicate and express their points of view. Engage with your child and make a conscientious effort to understand their thoughts and feelings. Avoid dismissing your child’s feelings or judging their experiences. This will help you understand your child’s experience and connect with them on a deeper, emotional level.
The Power of Play
For younger children, the best window into their inner life is through observing their play. Children communicate through play. They may not be ready to have a deep conversation about their emotions, but they process their experiences and feelings through play. Observing the themes they act out in pretend play or the types of toys they’re drawn to can help you better understand their feelings and needs.
Taking time daily to be completely present as you play with your children can also help you connect and bond. Even just 10 minutes a day of uninterrupted, child-led playtime can make a world of difference in the parent-child connection and help you better understand your child.
Seeing the World Through Their Eyes
All in all, you can understand your child by putting yourself in their shoes. Some of the fundamental building blocks behind raising a child come from understanding how they think and feel and knowing who they are as a person. Empowered parents recognize just how special their children are and they take the time to see the world through their eyes. Provide your child with a lifetime of support and protect their well-being by taking the initiative to get to know them better as individuals.
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